Personality maintains its discreetness by an act of will. Otherwise one person will flow helplessly into another.
He remembered the dissolute adventures in which his senses, his nervous system and his mind had indulged; he saw himself corroded by irony and intellect, laid waste and paralyzed by insight, almost exhausted by the fevers and chills of creation, helplessly and contritely tossed to and fro between gross extremes, between saintly austerity and lust oversophisticated and impoverished, worn out by cold, rare artificial ecstasies, lost, ravaged, racked and sick and he sobbed with remorse and nostalgia.thomas mann
There's something depressing about a young couple helplessly in love. Their state is so perfect, it must be doomed. They project such qualities on their lover that only disappointment can follow.Roger Eber