The pleasures of love are for those who are hopelessly addicted to another living creature. The reasons for such addiction are so many that I suspect they are never the same in any two cases. It includes passion but does not survive by passion; it has its whiffs of the agreeable vertigo of young love, but it is stable more often than dizzy; it is a growing, changing thing, and it is tactful enough to give the addicted parties occasional rests from strong and exhausting feeling of any kind.
If you declare Crocker's Rules, other people don't need to worry about being tactful to you.:; ( You still need to worry about being tactful to them Crocker's Rules only work one way.)eliezer yudkowsky