This used to be about sex. The literature of my people was pornography, filled with cries for mercy, drama enacted on people without prolonged negotiation, partners engaged in a dance in the middle of a bonfire. Now, it's 300-page manuals about how to make sure nothing bad will happen.
p. 13 ("Unsafe at Any Speed or: Safe, Sane and Consensual, My Fanny")
Fantasies aren't reality, I know, I know, I know. Except when they are. Except when you make them into reality.Laura Antoniou
Safe, sane and consensual what do those words really mean? Assimilation, that's what.Laura Antoniou
What goes on when people overfetishize safety is that they're relapsing into that old frame of mind that what we're doing is BAD.Laura Antoniou
The trouble is, SMers are allowing themselves to be defined by what they are not. We think, "Oh, so many people believe that we're all murderers and rapists, and we have to explain that we're not!" Uh so, a slogan for the gay civil rights movement should be "Normal, Non-threatening and Not After Your Children"?Laura Antoniou